tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post966798264303185540..comments2023-06-06T06:30:52.291-04:00Comments on Mr.Nighttime: I am Sam.Mr. Nighttimehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-78167732648803187732009-06-01T11:55:44.084-04:002009-06-01T11:55:44.084-04:00Sounds so familiar sometimes when we look in to th...Sounds so familiar sometimes when we look in to the faces of another soul's story. :) Well written, as always. Poignant.<br /><br />xox ClaudiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-73209200249847258412009-05-30T17:53:05.566-04:002009-05-30T17:53:05.566-04:00Very moving. I cannot think of a worse job than p...Very moving. I cannot think of a worse job than photographing bodies pulled out of the 9/11 wreckage. Just unimaginable - I'm sure no one would be unscathed by that even if he'd never had any other troubles at all. Glad he has you for a friend.AnneDroidhttp://annedroid-annedroid.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-3806427192397889932009-05-29T08:55:52.358-04:002009-05-29T08:55:52.358-04:00Came here from David McMahon's place. Hell of a go...Came here from David McMahon's place. Hell of a good post, nice writing. God bless you and your pal!Suldoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07778845367184916684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-51810034830987869582009-05-28T15:39:21.674-04:002009-05-28T15:39:21.674-04:00Hi, I came over from David's authorblog. Great pos...Hi, I came over from David's authorblog. Great post! Congrats on the Post of the Day Award!Cheffie-Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16568520021347503121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-25958101999003823612009-05-28T11:22:34.895-04:002009-05-28T11:22:34.895-04:00also came by way of david...and congrats on the po...also came by way of david...and congrats on the post of the day!<br /><br />not only well written, but an engaging story of your friendship.katherine.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06000676644051958330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-78208939206811827172009-05-28T11:08:47.871-04:002009-05-28T11:08:47.871-04:00Congratulatons on making Post of the Day and to Da...Congratulatons on making Post of the Day and to David for pointing us in your direction and thank you for telling us the story of your friend Sam. I do hope that he gets the help he needs and sticks with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-51012444546376559172009-05-28T10:17:44.954-04:002009-05-28T10:17:44.954-04:00Daryl - Was that you in that van? *wink* Thanks fo...Daryl - Was that you in that van? *wink* Thanks for stopping in and the kind words.Mr. Nighttimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-22407466248457832152009-05-28T09:54:13.348-04:002009-05-28T09:54:13.348-04:00Gaston = Thank you so much for stopping on by and ...Gaston = Thank you so much for stopping on by and commenting. I am still reeling from the idea that I won post of the day. <br /><br />Sam actually is on medication now, and it's just a matter of getting him to a good therapist, whether it be a psychiatrist or a psychologist, he will get the help he needs. Even he admitted to me that he knows he needs it. <br /><br />Perfect Green - I don't think Sam is type of guy that writes things down like that, though I agree with you that it might help. He is more of a verbal kind of guy, and I think if anything, once he has healed to a degree, he might turn it into a lecture of some sort.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, and please do so again.Mr. Nighttimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-7761613013928268662009-05-28T09:43:10.332-04:002009-05-28T09:43:10.332-04:00Over from David's to say congrats on the sharing o...Over from David's to say congrats on the sharing of the top spot on the POTD .. <br /><br />Ah you brought back memories with this post .. I hung out at Orchard Beach, section 10 by the pole, but not too often at night ... ;-)<br /><br />This is a wonderful post and you are a good friend .. I hope Sam gets the help he needs and reclaims his former selfDarylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241795455748298624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-68627158489829567162009-05-28T08:00:10.821-04:002009-05-28T08:00:10.821-04:00What a wonderful, heartfelt post of a complex char...What a wonderful, heartfelt post of a complex character. I wish "Sam" would write. Write it all down, even if you don't think anyone will read it. There is a purge that needs to happen. Writing might help.PurestGreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10860331983741242940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-73514314359954897262009-05-28T07:39:43.459-04:002009-05-28T07:39:43.459-04:00Congrats on POTD, which is how I found you. Excell...Congrats on POTD, which is how I found you. Excellent post and I hope your friend gets checked for possible chemical imbalance; this is a whole 'nother ballgame than just being depressed from outside causes and needs meds and a psychiatrist to monitor.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16813508472498593787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-19855589967476379772009-05-27T14:28:06.949-04:002009-05-27T14:28:06.949-04:00Oh wow. My emotions jumped all over in this post, ...Oh wow. My emotions jumped all over in this post, from laughing at the ambulance sirens behind the van to being impressed that he is a detective to shock at the 9/11 experience and to almost crying how you described him now.<br /><br />that poor man. I cna't even imagine how those images from 9/11 haunt him every single day, and not just in his sleep, but I'm sure in his waking life, too. This is so very sad and I pray that he can find his way back. I hope your friend is able to help him.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10811460930343769653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-80274788486654916422009-05-27T01:58:50.493-04:002009-05-27T01:58:50.493-04:00Peter - Stuart is one of the few friendships I hav...Peter - Stuart is one of the few friendships I have from back then, and the fact that we were in high school together is actually inconsequential. It is everything else we experienced together. But yeah, it's amazing we have stayed close all these years.<br /><br />Tex - Thank you so much, I appreciate your kind words and I will try to update folks on Sam when I can. Wait, that sounds too much like Dr. Seuss... ;-)<br /><br />RunE - yep, I know about hedgehogs as well, though you don't really see them around here. Woodchucks often end up with the same fate though - as roadkill.<br /><br />Frog - Yeah, doesn't it seem that way though? The stuff that can invade your head during those moments is truly awful<br /><br />RnC - Never have truer words been spoken. the effects that it can have on a marriage can be horrific, especially since that is the person that you most need.<br /><br />Jay - A good observation, and yeah, I tend to be in agreement. Yes, he does take time for himself, but not as much as he should. He focuses a lot of his attention on his kids, which is understandable, as he doesn't have them living with him, and sees them every other week. <br /><br />The last big trip he took was a cruise last year - with his kids - and another family and one friend. I think he would be better served with some vacation time all by himself.<br /><br />David - Thank you so much for the kind words. As a freelance writer trying to build my own business, it's always nice to be recognized by a peer. I am hoping that I can help Sam lift those barriers, but at the end of the day, a lot falls on his shoulders. As my own therapist pointed out on many an occasion, we need to give ourselves permission to be happy.Mr. Nighttimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-39355954103983818552009-05-26T18:38:24.186-04:002009-05-26T18:38:24.186-04:00Great post. Wonderful writing style. There is alwa...Great post. Wonderful writing style. There is always a way to lift the barriers that impede not just us, but others as well.david mcmahonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009095220051075552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-42160321606230104172009-05-26T07:58:15.407-04:002009-05-26T07:58:15.407-04:00To "Retiredandcrazy", on behalf of those...To "Retiredandcrazy", on behalf of those of whose who have to fight the 'black dog', THANK-YOU. Your attitude makes a refreshing change from the usual pull yourself together, cheer up it may never happen, you're crazy, it's all in your head (well d'oh!), stop feeling sorry for yourself etc that we get even from our nearest & supposedly dearest.<br />jAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-14382498554682023002009-05-25T08:58:29.344-04:002009-05-25T08:58:29.344-04:00It sounds almost as if he might be suffering from ...It sounds almost as if he might be suffering from burn-out after all these years of giving so much of himself in service to others. Has he had a really decent holiday lately? Does he make time for just himself?<br /><br />Good idea to keep closer tabs on him. I'm sure he'll appreciate it.Jayhttp://www.thedeppeffect.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-54301615613459804242009-05-25T08:36:06.933-04:002009-05-25T08:36:06.933-04:00I do hope that you are able to get Same help. Dep...I do hope that you are able to get Same help. Depressions is such a terrible thing. I have been lucky not to have been affected myself, but I have close family that do and it's a terrible, terrible thing. It is when a person is at their most unlovable that they need the most love.www.retiredandcrazy.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12130398756223000765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-75982160466910109662009-05-25T03:37:16.187-04:002009-05-25T03:37:16.187-04:00Moving story, thanks for putting it into words so ...Moving story, thanks for putting it into words so thoughtfully. Yes depression can creep up on you slowly, imperceptibly, then before you know it there seems to be no way back. Don't know about a rabbit hole, sometimes it can seem as if you've taken up residence in an entire warren. All the other rabbits have left, and a family of ferrets have moved in.<br /><br />Good therapy, supportive friends are the way back, but it doesn't get any easier as the years roll by.The Frogbloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06974272262704070183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-53005701298767694802009-05-24T11:57:46.353-04:002009-05-24T11:57:46.353-04:00It is like my own experience - nobody is safe from...It is like my own experience - nobody is safe from anything. Some act as if they were, but they are not. Luckily most thing can be cured, or at least made to live with these days. And good friends help a lot.<br /><br />PS The Hedgehog is quite a different animal from what you describe. It looks like a pincushion on the run is loved by one and all. The largest problem is that it can carry diseases like salmonella and that they tend to get run over by cars. They may end up on the endangered species list.Rune Eidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01008247272056395901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-16589041114779481142009-05-24T10:10:01.223-04:002009-05-24T10:10:01.223-04:00You put it all out there for us. Perfect time abso...You put it all out there for us. Perfect time absolutely, but anytime is good too. You know, you feel, and you care. Now I do too. I hope Sam can again find peace within himself, old friends can certainly be the path. It is wonderful Sam has friends like you, and of course, you, him. I hope you will write more about Sam and let us know how he is doing. Thank you both for your years dedicated to helping others. World would be a much harder place without you.Sistertexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14944458164626912003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-53030145540425760552009-05-24T05:55:39.588-04:002009-05-24T05:55:39.588-04:00"Life grades on a curve", someone once said, and y..."Life grades on a curve", someone once said, and your post reminded me about that quote.<br /><br />I used to watch some of my friends grow older gracefully, but not all of us are so lucky to have that privilege.<br /><br />In a way you're lucky to keep track of these old friendships - I've moved so much that most of these old friends from highschool have long faded into the background.<br /><br />Maybe it's a cultural issue (Belgians pretty much tend to keep a distance), but when I met a highschool friend last month in Antwerp (I hadn't seen him since the early 90s), he was ever so polite but seemed to have forgotten the great times we had when we were 18.Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01154038964967283580noreply@blogger.com