tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post8988708789197086636..comments2023-06-06T06:30:52.291-04:00Comments on Mr.Nighttime: The white patch.Mr. Nighttimehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-12306045905008945592009-10-30T20:54:15.741-04:002009-10-30T20:54:15.741-04:00I think I understand. These things from our past l...I think I understand. These things from our past lie dormant, often, until the right time, or until something triggers their release. It's only then that we can truly deal with the emotions we've packed away with the rest of the baggage when we severed that particular link. It happens after we lose someone too, doesn't it? There are things we can't, don't want to, or won't face. Sometimes we don't even know we're hiding from them, but they'll get us in the end.<br /><br />I'm glad you were able to get through this and that you feel able to move forward now. Onward and upward!jayhttp://www.thedeppeffect.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-51767154456785666362009-10-28T14:07:02.299-04:002009-10-28T14:07:02.299-04:00VS - If only it were an act... ;-)VS - If only it were an act... ;-)Mr. Nighttimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-82158034523883925722009-10-28T10:12:47.070-04:002009-10-28T10:12:47.070-04:00This almost had me welling up with emotion.
But, y...This almost had me welling up with emotion.<br />But, you want to be an actor - this proves you ARE a professional amateur actor.VioletSkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222821877918680480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-70255375013102333052009-10-27T10:45:10.660-04:002009-10-27T10:45:10.660-04:00Bina - Grieved for my liver? No, not in that way, ...Bina - Grieved for my liver? No, not in that way, but it does take some getting used to at first, understanding that what I lost is nothing in comparison to what I gained. I would say it was more anger that my body betrayed me in way it did, but I came to terms with that a long time ago.<br /><br />Joanna - Your friends therapist is dead on. Here's hoping she heeds the advice.Mr. Nighttimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-77749542566294041742009-10-26T14:53:28.362-04:002009-10-26T14:53:28.362-04:00I was talking about this just the other day with a...I was talking about this just the other day with a friend who had an accident which left her knee useless. She had been an aspiring black belt martial artist. Three years on, she's just a middle-aged woman who has put on too much weight because she cant exercise, smokes too much and is mostly alone because she can no longer get about. Her therapist told her that she has to grieve for the woman she was and learn to accept the woman that she now is.<br /><br />It's not easy. She was one grading short of her black belt. Perhaps if she could look at one of those, she might be able to grieve properly. Without it, she feels resentful at having her dream cut short in its prime and it's really hard to help her :(Joanna Cakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15944673677004607976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-3133760515512542872009-10-26T13:03:44.426-04:002009-10-26T13:03:44.426-04:00Wow. That gave me chills. What an excellent, emoti...Wow. That gave me chills. What an excellent, emotional post. I'm so very happy thought you were able to put it on, and the grieve for a way of life that you loved so very much. It was part of you. It was a part of you that you no longer have. <br /><br />I'm wondering if you grieved for you liver the way you grieved for this. That may be a strange thing to ask, but both were so very much a vital part of you. Only, the job can never be replaced.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10811460930343769653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-26653775730219449782009-10-24T11:21:27.441-04:002009-10-24T11:21:27.441-04:00In retrospect, it must have been such a relief Mr ...In retrospect, it must have been such a relief Mr Nighttime: realizing what you've lost,<br />but after all those years being able to be proud of what you've achieved,<br />without all those layers of grief impeding your progress in life.<br /><br />I believe you truly reached a milestone.Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01154038964967283580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-8191906089611142302009-10-24T09:20:16.028-04:002009-10-24T09:20:16.028-04:00And to make matters worse for you, there are those...And to make matters worse for you, there are those long-term health problems. "Oww," as we folks here would say in sympathy.neena maiya (guyana gyal)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01358313821005038118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-51689735739608576252009-10-24T09:17:10.409-04:002009-10-24T09:17:10.409-04:00Acknowledging that grief, then letting it out is o...Acknowledging that grief, then letting it out is one of the best ways to heal. <br /><br />When I was leaving the Caribbean island to come back home here to live, I cried. I was leaving behind a nice island life. I was coming back to no real writing job, no creativity, I was coming back to a place where people are so conservative, I'd be stifled. Then there was the violent politics, and later, the crime. I had to find a way to enjoy my life here.neena maiya (guyana gyal)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01358313821005038118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7342018740029766616.post-26476192374800879472009-10-24T09:00:57.260-04:002009-10-24T09:00:57.260-04:00An excellent post, and one any person who's ha...An excellent post, and one any person who's had long term health problems can really relate to. We have to grieve for what we lost before we can be happy with what we gain.<br />BG Xx<br />PS: It's a lifeguard shirt for me, which I earned in CT, deep water spinal board rescues, I was your gal ;)BenefitScroungingScumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.com